Crushed...

Or, a note on crushes...

My friends, I have had them, I read of Christian girls, and guys having them, they are normal eh?  Normal does not make it right though.  I have decided to examine this in light of logic, and scripture to see if it stands up to the test.

Logically it is pretty dumb to have a crush on someone.  You are practicing falling in love with someone, you are often creating a character that is not real because often you don't really know the person, sometimes not at all.  Even if you do not date, you are really dating in your heart, folks.  It is one and the same, you see a person you like, and you go out with them emotionally, you give your heart to them, then, either you find someone you like better, or, you find something about that person that you don't like, and you move on, or if you are at all like me, you move in circles, and keep adding to the circles, and have the crush of the month.  Ok, lets see, how does this pattern prepare you for marriage?  Really?  I mean you fall in love, (or lust,) with someone, and then you move to  another, or maybe you even have a couple at once that you juggle, then one day, you are married, how are you going to stop looking at others when your spouse becomes normal?  What if your spouse turns out not to live up to the perfect character you projected?  I remember Gothard saying that at a wedding there are actually six people getting married, who she thinks she is, who he thinks she is, who she is, who he thinks he is, who she thinks he is, and who he is.  The goal is to of course try to make as little difference between those people as possible, and that is what courtship is for.  Creating a false character in your mind will not help smooth over this at all.

To go farther, say you have a crush on a certain actor, or actress, you are generally only having a crush on who they portrayed, not them.  You don't know them, only time you see them is in movies, or on a stage in their perfect behavior.  If you really knew them, often you would be repulsed, or maybe find out that they are already married, then that means that you are committing adultery with another person's spouse for  the lust is adultery.  Folks to be really honest having a crush on somebody is often adultery.

I will now quickly recap.  Having crushes will not prepare you for marriage, they are often very casual loves, because we know that we can never have them, but we dream about it anyway.  Often crushes are simply lust, (they always were for me,) and lust is adultery.  Crushes are mostly based on a projected character, not a real person. 

So my friends, that sums it up, having a crush is stupid, and is sin...

The End.

An often overlooked fact...

I thought of this the other day, and it is quite interesting how it is overlooked by many.  It is often argued that people's gender is simply what they were raised as.  That is, that if you were raised as a girl then you became one.  So, it that is true, then that would mean there really is no gender, gender is simply defined by input from an outside source, remove that input and the person then is free to express themselves as to what gender they really are.  If this is true, and if man is an animal, (which those that gender is defined by how you are raised believe,) then why are animal's gender not the same?  We do not encourage a goat doe to be that, she is that at birth.  If the animals are what they are, when they first come into this world, (really before,) why are people not the same?  Just a thought...

God Bless,
                   Flame of Jah